Our tips for the connection of your brain and body:

• Plan a night for just the two of you—get a babysitter, put away the BlackBerry and cancel any other obligations. This may seem like a task in itself, so remind yourself that this is an important conversation about an aspect of your life that can affect your happiness, your self-esteem and your relationship with your partner.
• Next, pick a setting that is intimate, relaxed, casual and private. You don’t want an atmosphere that sets expectations or puts pressure on you or your partner. Maybe it’s as simple as dinner at home together, alone, at the dining room table. When was the last time you got to sit across from your partner and just talk—not about kids, or bills, or household chores, but about the things that you both enjoy, or have in common—the things that brought you together in the first place? To make it a little more special, maybe you can even light some candles. As you enjoy your time together, and when it feels comfortable, bring up the sexual satisfaction check-up.
• Once you’re ready, tell your partner that you found an interesting article online, which featured a questionnaire that will allow you both to comfortably think about your sexual relationship. Hand your partner the questionnaire and a pen, and as you go into different rooms, tell your partner to take some time to think through the answers. When you are both done, go through each question and spend time talking about each of your answers. The time and effort you spend on this conversation with your partner can have a positive effect on your happiness, self-esteem and relationship satisfaction—not to mention a more honest and enjoyable sex life for both of you!